i have had yaya vinvin since after the new year holidays this year. she’s the only one who’s lasted this long (7 months and counting). before, i used to rack my brain why there was a continuous parade of short-lived nannies who are in and out our door faster than you can say mischa. i lived through horror stories of unhygienic, smoking, hysterical and sosy (who thought we were paying her P500 for a half day’s work) helpers that it somehow crossed my mind dozens of times whether we are horrible employers, and if we treat them badly. i couldn’t think of any reason why anyone didn’t last longer than 2 months. in my moments of introspection (and desperation), i wanted to take the blame why we couldn’t hold on to mischa’s yayas. they were given decent salaries, provided comfortable quarters, etc. i haven’t been in the motherhood game that long back then, but i thought that we were treating them fairly enough, except that i couldn’t bring myself to get too chummy with them. others i know make it a point to ask them about their families, their life stories, what bothers them, their favorite foods, find out more about their children. i guess in time, i might develop this kind of emphatic trait of employers, but it’s not really me to be ma-chika with other people who are strangers at first. it takes a while for me to be ultra comfortable, even with friends. it’s not my personality, really. as long as i see that they’re doing their job well, we can get along fine. but i’m not really into the closey-closey relationships, i’m not just made up of that stuff. sometimes i do talk to them, and ask them what they need. with yaya vinvin, i guess i’m beginning to warm to her with as much warmth as i could muster. don’t get me wrong, i trust mischa with her so that counts for something. she’s the only one i have felt comfortable with from the get-go. i can go about my business leaving my baby, knowing that i can work in peace knowing she’s being taken cared of well, without her turning into a yagit or an uhugin. i also know that she follows my instructions when it comes to mischa to the letter. by this time, she knows what we like and do not like, and she’s careful enough not to test the waters. at the young of 20, she keeps house for us quite well. my hubby is short-tempered, and to say he hasn’t reprimanded her is an achievement in itself. lol.
until recently. we discover stuff upon stuff of broken plates, cups, containers, and house decors, and burned pieces of clothing. sigh. i knew things couldn’t be perfect. she’s bound to be bad at something (not that i was hoping for something to happen, of course). it’s just, you realize that things are too good to be true. sure, she performs everything without complaint. i hardly ever hear her actually, much less complain of things. she doesn’t even tell me if things like laundry detergent, dishwashing liquid, cooking oil, etc. have gone up to dry. i usually just discover that we are left with very little or no supplies at all. it’s different with mischa’s supplies but i am such an OC when it comes to her milk, water, diapers, vitamins, etc. anyway, that’s what we have to deal with lately–her becoming careless and a little clumsy. she’s broken several of my stuff (wedding gifts, and these are limited) and my sister-in-law’s (we are playing house guard while her family is in UK), and has burned hubby’s uniform and other clothes. now, these are minor things really but of course, it can piss you a little when you come home and you find out about these. we’re thinking now if we are going to ask her to pay for the subsequent things she breaks or not. as i told hubby, it’s not the things per se that we value, it’s more of teaching her to be more responsible for the things being entrusted to her. i also find this a little harsh as she receives minimal pay and i know that her family needs the money she sends them but how to teach her a lesson? how to ensure that she provides more care and attention to the things we’ve built or invested in? we don’t have much right now, and what we already have, we treasure to bits.
how do we deal with this?